“Disconnected” is the word I would use to describe how I was feeling during 2020. As a grandmother of six grandchildren, I slowly began to realize that I was missing them. Connecting through social media felt too invasive, too quick, and too sterile, as my heart drifted away from them. I was experiencing the losses the pandemic had created and began to wonder: Is there another way for my grandmotherly heart to be expressed to my grandchildren?
Surprisingly, I found that way through the memories created over sixty years ago by my mother and my grandmother. And it was through the art of writing letter.
I remember fondly the days when my mother received a letter from her mother. Those were heartwarming days for sure, filled with information, updates and love expressed through those handwritten pages. Interestingly, those letters were read and discussed before my mother sealed the letter into another five-cent stamped envelope and sent it onto Aunt Hester. From there it went to Uncle Al, and then Uncle Ben.
I used to marvel at how one letter could bless so many.
I decided to pick up what I believe to be the lost art of letter-writing, and write to my grandchildren. I was excited to get started. One would think I had invented something new, yet letter-writing is one of the oldest methods of communication. I would like to say my excitement ran high eternally, but to be honest, I began to think that my life was dull and uneventful. Yet I wrote and wrote, one letter at a time.
As a letter-writing grandmother, I have learned a few interesting things about my life and my grandchildren that I would not have known if I had not started writing to each of them.
First, my grandchildren found reading my cursive difficult. Each one has expressed the time and effort it has taken them to read my letters. It is time well-spent, as they have expressed love receiving them. I’ve even inspired a few to begin writing in the cursive they vaguely remember learning in elementary school.
Second, I learned that my life does not have to be filled with profound thoughts or ideas. My letters are an offering to each one of them, as they are seasoned with love, prayers and encouragement.
For now, my letters are good enough, as I express my life openly before them. My heart belongs solely to them, as I write one letter at a time.
Who knew my mother’s and my grandmother’s letters would have impact, so many years later? My letters carry just a whisper of the thread of love woven generations ago. For now, this thread will remain unbroken for my grandchildren and me, one letter at a time.
Mary Jane Hamilton loves her life living on Lake Michigan with her husband of 50+ years. It is her family that brings her the greatest joy, especially her six grandchildren. MJ readily admits that she adores her dachshunds and rests in the comfort they provide. She smiles at life and “rolls with the punches.” MJ loves Jesus and beauty, MJ loves wind, waves, and thunder, MJ loves fashion and good wine, MJ loves…&n
I love the idea of writing letters.
Thank you, Melissa…I hope you give it a try!
Mary Jane, I absolutely loved what you shared. The thought that a written letter would bless so many, from your mother and her siblings, to now your grandkids, is captivating. And the challenges with cursive! But for your grandkids the challenges of studying the cursive is worth it!
Thank you, Maureen. Your words are generous and kind. I miss you and Paul and trust life is blessing you well.
This is such a beautiful vision-carried-forward, Mary Jane! I love the idea, the intention, and the application of this process of letter writing so very much. What a treasure you are to your grandchildren!
Thank you, Lacey, for the kindness of your words. Bless you!
“Expressing your life openly”,what a beautiful gift! ! My daughter who is in her 20s wanted stationary last year for Christmas, I love how special it is to get a card or letter in the mail. Thanks for the inspiration.
Thank you, Maryhelen! I hope you have been on the receiving end of a letter from your daughter. I,love receiving card/letter, too! Thank you for your kind response. May you be bless as well!
I love this. Some of my favorite books are books of author’s letters, you learn so much about them that way and I think that’s something we’ve lost in this social media world. This inspires me to pick it up again!
Thank you, Dara! I hope you do pick up a pen and start writing letters. I appreciate your encouragement to keep my letters going and alive to my grandchildren. Yes…there is much to learn from those who pen a letter😘
This is such a great idea! Something tangible for them to hold in their hands and read – from you to them – personally. I’m glad you shared this with us. I would like to give this a try with my grandchildren.
Thank you, Barbara for your encouraging words. I do hope you give writing to your grandchildren a try! Your heart will be blessed as you write one letter at a time❤️