There are three “stages” of labor. The second part, the part where your cervix dilates and you push and the baby is born, that part is called “transition”. I find it very fitting that the part of labor where the entire world for the child and mother changes is called “transition”. After this part of labor, it’s never the same. The baby goes from fetus/womb dweller to infant. The mother goes from pregnant to postpartum. For first time mothers, we transition from “pregnant lady” to “mother”.
Transitions are, in some regard, an identity change. Especially when it involves the closing of one chapter and the beginning of another. High school seniors transition to college students. Preschoolers transition to kindergarteners. Babies transition to toddlers. Teachers transition to whoever they are in the summer. Things change. And transitions can be really alarming and scary for people.
I know that there is nothing that can prepare me to change from wife and pregnant woman to mom. There is no preparation for going from just “husband and wife” to a family of three. There just isn’t. And I think if I didn’t understand that God goes before me and that He is where I am rooted, then I would probably lose my mind.
Because before I was a pregnant lady, a wife, a teacher, a mom, a sister, a whatever, I was a child of God. And despite all the lifestyle changes and different seasons I’ve gone through, that has never changed. And transition is so much easier when we are rooted in truth. When I know that God loves me and I am His child before anything else, then whatever change comes my way loses some power.
May is a season of change and transition. Kids end school, kids start new jobs; teachers get a break, things end and new things start. And yet, in all this transition, God never changes. He doesn’t end or begin or transition. There is no end of Him, and because we are in Him, there is no end of our true identity.
There are lots of women out there who will have major change this month. Moms are watching their babies graduate, moms are watching their babies become mothers, women are going from single to wed, women are going from college student to career woman, women are seeing one chapter end and another begin, and that can bring some serious questioning and anxiety. But we must remember that who we are in Christ never changes, never transitions, never ends, and if we can cling to that steady foundation as things change over and over and over again, then we are free to enjoy change.
I will transition in 8 short weeks to mom, my life as an individual, doing what I want, when I want, will be done, and that is pretty unnerving, but I know that because my identity in Christ never changes, I can have a firm foundation in any transition or change. And I can sit back and enjoy the ride.
Kacy Davis lives in Fort Worth, Texas with her husband, Collin. She is a special education teacher and advocate of those with special needs and loves her job. She spends her time riding bikes with her husband, running, reading, and enjoying those she loves. Kacy believes in reinventing what it means to be a woman and wife who loves the Lord and longs to help others learn to love the Lord with abandon, freedom, and a greater understanding of grace. She writes here.