The Allender Center – Page 2

Opening My Eyes

By: redtentwomen August 4, 2017August 4, 2017

Day to Day, Intentional Living, relationshipsBecky Allender, Discrimination, Diversity Training, GI Bill housing, Race, Race-The Power of an Illusion, The Allender Center17 Comments

All transformation requires disruption. And it seems to me that no one changes because it’s a good idea.

Remember

By: redtentwomen March 22, 2017March 22, 2017

Day to Day, Intentional LivingJanet Stark, Lent, Little Norway, Prayer, Recovery Week, The Allender Center14 Comments

One of my most loved, and at the same time, most hated parts of the experiences I had at Recovery Weeks was the excursion at the end of the week.

Defining Choices

By: redtentwomen February 15, 2017February 15, 2017

Day to Day, Intentional Living, WarriorAnna Smith, President Trump, Recovery from Abuse, Social Justice, The Allender Center, Therapy6 Comments

Our yes’s and no’s define us. They’re the choices we make to pursue or stop the cause of what we find permissible.

Hello To The Next Woman

By: redtentwomen January 24, 2017January 22, 2017

relationships, UncategorizedMary Mathias, Recovery from Emotional Abuse, relationships, The Allender Center7 Comments

Hello, Right now you are on cloud nine. The unending attention, adoring romantic words, and extravagant life style are all a woman raised in our culture could ever hope for…almost too good to be true.

Choosing to Return

By: redtentwomen November 21, 2016November 22, 2016

Day to Day, The HomeHonor, Lindsay Bramen, Moving, Seattle, story, The Allender Center, Transitions4 Comments

Salmon sculptures inlay the floors in swirling eddies of bronze and granite at Sea-Tac Airport. I’ve rushed over these fish many times as I’ve navigated a season of growth and vocational transition in Seattle. This time flying out of Seattle was different. This trip was the last trip. Like most transitions, my move to Seattle…

Come Along, Little Girl

By: redtentwomen October 19, 2016October 16, 2016

relationshipsCounseling, Julie McClay, Little Girl, Memory and Kindness, self-care, The Allender Center, vulnerability8 Comments

Her presence is just out of reach. I try to access her inside of my head, but I do not know where she is.

Can I be healed too?

By: redtentwomen October 3, 2016October 2, 2016

Intentional Living, relationshipsBecky Allender, Dan Allender, Healing, Hope, Intercession, Legacy, Prayer, Self Kindness, St. Louis, The Allender Center, trauma, vulnerability32 Comments

It was a “let’s see if we like each other” dance that began in 2010.

Telling the Truth

By: redtentwomen September 7, 2016September 5, 2016

Intentional Livingcourage, Dan Allender, Grief, Healing, Susan Tucker, The Allender Center, The Seattle School, The Story Workshop, To Be Told, trauma, truth17 Comments

Everything about the place said “welcome”: the rich red bricks of the exterior, the scent and sounds of the waterfront only a block away, the warm light falling on worn hardwood floors inside, and couches and chairs beckoning me to make myself at home.

Holding Honor.

By: redtentwomen November 6, 2015November 3, 2015

Warrior, WholeheartedBecky Allender, Lord of the Rings, Seattle, Sex Trafficking, The Allender Center, The Seattle School14 Comments

I didn’t want to write about a moment in which I was honored. I wanted to write about how important it is to offer honor to others.

Such a time as this…

By: redtentwomen July 17, 2015August 1, 2015

UncategorizedEsther, Hagar, Jean Masukevich, Narrative therapy, Recovery from Abuse, Redemption, Royal Family Kids Camp, small groups, Summer camp, The Allender Center4 Comments

“And who knows whether you have not attained royalty for such a time as this.” Esther 4:14 When I entered my story for the first time I did so reluctantly and found myself quickly overwhelmed and under attack.